Book: Set Your Boundaries Your Way - 7 Easy Ways to Say No to Difficult People by Stephanie Sternercategories: Book, Personal Boundaries, Assertiveness, People Pleasing, People Pleaser, Feeling Guilty, Guilt Trips, Guilt Trip, Manipulative People, Need for Approval, Unreasonable People, Setting Boundaries
Stephanie Sternerabout this book: I wrote this book because sometimes you really need to say NO to something – and you just don't know how to do it. Or you can say it, but you can't make it stick. Maybe it's your mother you can't say NO to. Maybe it's your boss. Or maybe there are certain times when you just feel too guilty, even though you know you shouldn't.
Have you ever read someone's advice on saying NO and said to yourself, "I could never say that!" That's because, in the world of relationships, there is no one-size-fits-all solution. No one can tell you how to respond to a given situation. What you say and how you say it depends upon your values, your beliefs, your history and your relationship with the other person. You don't need a formula or a system. What you need is to understand the dynamics of the situation you're facing. What's really happening and what possible responses do you want to consider?
If you find yourself making excuses for your boundaries, then you'll love The 4th Easy Way: No Excuses, No Justifications. Here I take you through the process of saying NO without needing to convince others that it's OK. If you need to explain yourself to someone, you've given them your power. That's perfectly appropriate in some relationships, but dangerous in others. And it's up to you to decide which relationships and circumstances deserve some of that power and which ones don't.
The purpose of this concise but powerful guide is to help you get in touch with what's important to you and act on it. Saying YES to something you don't want means saying NO to something else. Often that "something else" is important to you. Assertiveness is not about being pushy, rude or inconsiderate. It's not even about making yourself more important than everyone else. It's about balancing your needs and theirs in a way that feels right to you. Assertiveness is really just about making and implementing the choices that most support your values.
You can't wait until you feel good enough to stand up for yourself. Stand up for yourself (even a little bit), and you'll start feeling good enough. This book will help you to do just that – one simple step at a time.
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